The most important part of building and maintaining a connection with your child is simple: positive attention. That means being present with them, emotionally and physically, and creating small, happy moments in your everyday life. Choose activities you both enjoy and that you can approach with calm energy. If something tends to drain your patience, try something else.
Connection takes time. If your early attempts feel awkward or don’t go as planned, don’t be discouraged. Children may test your consistency, attention, and boundaries – especially if they’re unsure they can rely on it. Keep showing up with patience, for them and for yourself. It might help to set up 5 minutes of “special time” or child-centered time each day, and then build from there.
Here are a few simple ways to reconnect:
Reading. Reading with your child fosters closeness and builds essential skills.
Play together. Play is one of the most powerful ways to bond. Whether it’s pretend games, sports, board games, video games, or storytelling, join in with enthusiasm and humor.
Talk to your child. Use open-ended questions and casual conversation starters to build the habit of checking in. Encourage them to ask you questions, too, to model two-way communication.
Snuggle. Physical touch helps foster connection. Snuggles, hugs, or sitting close while watching a show can go a long way; just be mindful of their boundaries.
Family chores. Make tidying up a shared activity. Add music or friendly competition. It teaches teamwork, responsibility, and creates shared accomplishment.
Cook and eat together. Get them involved in meal planning, shopping, or prep. Cooking teaches life skills and creates time to connect. Kids are more likely to eat meals they helped make, too.
Go for after-dinner walks. Even a short walk gives space to talk and reconnect. Point out what you see, share stories about your day, or just enjoy quiet time together.
These simple moments are powerful. You don’t need a perfect routine or grand gestures; just small, genuine efforts to stay present. Over time, they’ll add up to something lasting.
